Pultizer Prize-winning American columnist Jimmy Breslin wrote a front page feature story on Melanie Cane the author of Poisoned Love. Click on the icon to read Jimmy Breslin's cover story:
Obsessive Love addiction
Although it’s natural to mourn the loss of a relationship, people with obsessive love addiction take such feelings too far. There is scientific evidence that people with obsessive love addiction have changes in their brain chemistry when they are in love. In normal people, the areas of the brain that are stimulated by romantic love are the same areas of the brain that correspond to drug addiction. Obsessive love addiction is not classified in the Diagnostic and Statistical manual of Mental Disorders IV, but any addiction is a mental disorder. Food, alcohol, smoking and obsessive love addiction are all satiation drugs. When a relationship ends, there is a concomitant chemical withdrawal. Love and sex addicts may be dependent on the physical and psychological arousal triggered by the brain chemical (PEA) that causes euphoria and ecstasy that you experience when you fall in love. People with obsessive love addiction think “this person is the only one for me.” The fantasies feed the addiction,” says Susan Peabody, a love addiction teacher and author of “Addiction to Love: Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships.” In obsessive love addiction, the person is obsessed with the relationship. Obsessive love addiction involves power plays for control, blaming, and manipulation. The person with obsessive love addiction tries to change the other person to fit their own image. Obsessive love disorder is based on the premise that one’s partner will fix and rescue the other. People with obsessive love addiction are unable to tolerate separation and therefore become overly clingy, often driving the partner away. In my book Poisoned Love, I exhibit the kind of clinging behavior that people with obsessive love addiction display. This clinginess from obsessive love addiction is part of what destroyed my relationship with Luke.
Since obsessive love addiction is fueled by fantasy, modifying your thoughts is the best way to get over an ex. Obsessive love addiction is a process of addiction where a person becomes attached to another in an unhealthy, dependent manner. As I describe in my book Poisoned Love, people with borderline personality disorder, myself included, become attached to their love objects in unhealthy ways, similar to people with obsessive love addiction.
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